SO WHAT: REFLECT ON THE TEXT:
How do we build our homes in love?
1. Lay a proper foundation
Proverbs 3:19-20 reveals wisdom, understanding, and knowledge were with God when He laid the foundation of the world. Those three virtues should thus be with us as we lay a proper foundation for our marriages and our homes.
Wisdom emphasizes the ability to see beneath the surface of matters in order to accurately address what is truly going on (cf. Proverbs 20:5). Instead of ever letting unrest set in, we should ask, “What prompted that which just transpired?
Understanding describes skills of observation, discernment, and care (cf. Proverbs 14:29; Colossians 3:12). We establish rooms of rare and beautiful treasures when we develop healthy communication patterns and strive to better understand the personalities as well as the emotional triggers of those who make up our homes.
Knowledge involves intimate experience with another person, whereby we readily recognize temperaments, strengths, weaknesses, preferences, and so on. Keep in mind that people around us the most will more readily identify our proverbial warts than will mere acquaintances. Family members, then, will especially need to “bear with one another” (Colossians 3:13).
2. Set it back in order
What should we do if the proper foundations have never been laid in our marriages or in our homes?
The phrase at the end of verse 3 could be translated as “set in order.” Setting something back in order resembles tidying up our basement after the boys have friends over. You’ve got LEGO pieces all over the floor as well as cards and game pieces and balls and nerf bullets and so on. It can seem like a daunting task, but it can be restored. You just have to get started.
Dig consistently into God’s Word. Begin a habit of daily prayer. Find a faithful church home where others can provide encouragement and guidance. Relentlessly pursue learning about others in your household.
3. Take on the mind of Christ
The cross is evidence of how God relentlessly pursues us from His love. So, above all things, “put on love” (Colossians 3:14).
In the same vein as the created order, the church order (or the family of God) is built upon Christ as our cornerstone, from which we find the trifecta of wisdom, understanding, and knowledge.
In the waiting and the searching, He wisely sees beyond the surface to assess what is truly going on in our hearts. In the healing and the hurting, He understands our strengths and successes as well as our faults and failings. He knows where I’ve been and where I’m going, even when I didn’t know it or I couldn’t see it. “There was Jesus.”
As Jesus demonstrates wisdom, understanding, and knowledge in how He loves us, may we then have the mind of Christ our Savior in how we think about, speak to, and act toward our family members from day to day.
NOW WHAT: RESPOND TO THE TEXT:
Do not think about how you can prompt others to change; rather, through the abiding presence of the Holy Spirit start today by demonstrating wisdom, understanding, knowledge, and love in your dealings with those closest to you. Journal your experiences and the reactions of others.